Meeting Your Match
Cracking the code to successful relationships
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This whole book is a letter from me to you. It's what I've learned from clients, friends and my own life. You’ll find lots of stories and case studies. Some of them will be familiar; others will be vastly different. They will all add something to your knowledge of what makes a relationship work well.
Living your best life and love life is all about taking responsibility, acting on your own behalf and being the architect of your life; and has little or nothing to do with your past, luck or destiny.
Dating is a process with a beginning, a middle and an end. This book was written to help all of you who feel that "dating" is difficult, or who have had enough uncomfortable experiences to be hesitant. It was also written to help those who are searching for your life partner and keep meeting people who just don’t "make the grade."
Have you ever received reliable information or education on committed relationships? This book is for anyone who wants to improve relationships whether you are single, divorced, widowed; heterosexual, gay or lesbian; young or old. There are a wide variety of partnerships; each is a legitimate, healthy expression of human intimacy. It’s about having the relationship you deserve and ultimately you will be guided by your own needs, background experience and current skill levels in each area you’ll explore.
When dating isn't fun, you may question whether a relationship is right for you. The skills and approaches you’ll discover on this journey toward a lasting relationship will help you to have fun dating and to continue to have a rich and rewarding relationship with someone who is right for you.
Find out how to enjoy the journey in search of your ideal match!
We all have a need for a certain amount of stability in our lives. You’ll find that you have four cornerstones that are the foundation on which your life is grounded. These are:
· Your needs and values; the external and internal structures of your life.
· Your vision; what you want your life to be.
· Your life purpose; your reason for being.
· Your mission; the daily choices and behaviors that put into action living on purpose with vision driven by needs and values.
These form the basis of your inner life. Right now you may not be clear on what some of these are, but they are all there in your subconscious and help you to make decisions that are right for you.
In my worldview, it is essential to work on these four, so you can be certain you are engaging in your life and in the dating process with integrity and with accurate information and full awareness about yourself.
Let me explain: you create your life and your love life through your beliefs, intentions and the actions you take in the world. Every one of us has an inner guidance system that drives us and guides us in making choices, whether we are aware of it or not.
Your inner guidance system is a combination of these four related, but separate, parts. A love relationship is most fulfilling and satisfying when it is in alignment with your needs/values, vision, life purpose and mission.
If you live from your very being, you will live a life in alignment with your needs/values, vision and life purpose. When you live from your very being, you can genuinely love and be loved by another; you can know a love that grows out of choice. Real love with your partner-in-life will allow you to experience being loved by someone who chooses to love you, who sees in you something worth loving.
Jackie Black, Ph.D., dubbed the Love and Relationship Doctor by Cosmo U.K., knows that “Love is never enough!” Successful singles need to be emotionally intelligent; learn and practice essential relationship skills; and be courageous, compassionate, committed, tolerant and persistent.
Dr. Jackie is an internationally recognized relationship educator and coach.
Her clients are men and women who are Single-Again, Committed Couples in Trouble, Pre-marrieds, Newly-marrieds, people living with Life-threatening and Chronic Illness and those who love them; and those whose partners have died. Dr. Jackie’s clients span the globe working in eight time zones providing services via telephone and Skype.
Dr. Jackie is a popular Internet Syndicated writer and podcaster, distributing her monthly Relationship Tips Sheet to people in over 38 countries. She is a frequent contributor to Cosmo, Woman’s Health, Men’s Health, Maxim, the popular on-line dating site, Match.com; is a regular guest on pop, rock, hip-hop, jazz and country western radio shows across the U.S. and Canada offering her sage, no-nonsense advice to listeners of all ages.
Dr. Jackie can be reached via her web site http://www.DrJackieBlack.com
"This book is comprehensive, useful, and inspiring. Lessons or guidance on dating is as important as learning how to walk. In my experience as a therapist, the book contains information that many people have not had an opportunity to learn. This has left them without a structure for dating, which often leads to unnecessary pain and anguish. If it were up to me, your book would be used as a high school text for a mandatory class on 'Successful Relationships.' The book contains priceless information that adolescents need at the onset of their romantic life. Of course your book could be helpful for any age since it’s never to late to learn."
Stacy A. Berlin, Psy.D.
Psychoanalytic Psychodynamic Orientation
Perfect Bound Softcover
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