We all have these. Sometimes, they can be the most wonderful treasure this world has to offer. At other times, they can break your heart. I’m talking about relationships. Everybody has a myriad of different relationships in this adventure called life. Each relationship has its own dynamics, its own foibles, and its own language. We interact with parents, children, siblings, co-workers, spouses, authority, and, for some, even God. The greatest resource of joy, progress, hope, and prosperity is in connections with each other.

But the problem is that the way we develop, sustain, and communicate in relationships is unhealthy. The reason they are unhealthy is because we as individuals bring error into them from the past and from harmful views of ourselves. If you can’t think healthy about yourself, how can you interrelate with others in beneficial relationships? How can you have a strong family and an intimate love life if you don’t know how to communicate or meet each other’s needs? What would be the purpose of building friendships if you don’t know how to nurture and sustain them?

This book is designed to answer all those questions and more. Each chapter builds on how to improve yourself, your self-image, and the relationships around you. You will discover from documented research how your brain works in diverse situations, the different ways you handle conflict, how to communicate effectively with others, and how to build the theme of “Us-ness” in life’s important relationships and much more.

We all have them.  We can’t live without them.  Because of them life can be difficult and even painful.  Without them existence would be dull.  I’m talking about relationships, and individuals have myriads of them to wade through.  Our lives span a wide spectrum of relationships: parents, children, spouses, friends, co-workers, bosses, employees, church-folk, acquaintances, strangers, mentors, protégés, teachers, students, God, and other interests.

Obviously, each relationship is unique and has different dynamics.  You wouldn’t communicate the same way to your spouse as you would to fellow co-workers.  And your affinity with God should be distinctive compared to your conversation with a stranger.  Because we travel through such a wide range of relationships, we have to learn the different dialects of each one to enjoy them fully.  This book provides the useful tools needed to enhance yourself and your daily relationships to be healthy, vibrant, and connected.

We interact with a variety people who play different roles in our lives, but here’s the problem: many of our relationships are unhealthy.  We don’t often practice the deftness necessary in building strong, lasting, loyal, and trusting interaction.  The main reason we don’t develop our relationships to their optimum is because we don’t know how and because we already have ingrained in us examples set by our parents, friends, or some authority figure.  We don’t have to continue destructive or damaging habits though.  When we educate ourselves on how to gain, protect, and enhance our relationships, frustration dwindles while understanding and compassion begin to bloom.

Each relationship role has exclusive rules to be adhered.  But to succeed in those there are basic tenets that can be followed and practiced.

Who wants a lifetime of shallow, meaningless relationships?

Who wants to be so consumed with success and wealth that you neglect all who are dearest to you?  When a person’s terribly ill or

despondent, they never ask for the company of their sports car or a pile of their cash piled around the table lamp.  In times of need, you would like to know there are people by your side who care about you and love you.  No material good can comfort you; therefore none should supersede your daily closeness with people.

That is the issue: closeness.  We deal with people everyday.  We live with spouses and children, or with parents, relatives or guardians.  We make important decisions that affect the very lives of other individuals.  But is there any semblance of closeness, of trust, or of emotional vulnerability?  Sadly, for the majority of people the answer is No.