Every adult I have ever worked with has identified a broken, hurt or disillusioned child memory within; “The Children in my Chair.” Susie had an intense phobia, Lucy was a compulsive over eater, Valerie believed women are subservient and had no voice, Noreen grew up with a lack mentality and was always broke, Erin never felt good enough, Julie believed she was unlovable, Doug was angry all the time and Katie distrusted her feelings and hide them inside. How did this happen?

We are living in a world full of people living with shame, guilt, self blame, unhappiness, unworthiness, fear and obligation that was originally `put upon them'  unconsciously by their mentors and role models in early life.

 How we, as innocent children, learn about and what we come to believe about ourselves and about life are the teachings of this book.  We've been conditioned! Conditioning begins with words we hear, think and speak.

This book is a simple call to presence for all because everyone was once a child themselves.  Take this opportunity to; recognize your own conditioning; break the chains of the past; learn what it is to be present; and learn how to consciously use words that empower, inspire, support and encourage both yourself and the children in your life now. 

The majority of us have learned to suppress our feelings so well that anxiety, depression and stress related illnesses and behaviors are rampant.  Prescriptions for Anxiety, Depression and Bi-Polar have sky rocketed in the last 20 years.  Our thoughts and feelings are interconnected.  When you ignore, depress, or numb your feelings you lose touch with the thought pattern that is creating them.  You lose touch with the present moment and what's going on.  You lose touch with the message that is saying “You are off track, you are not present, you are in your head.”

The fact is your unconscious thoughts and beliefs from the past are still impacting and creating your life today whether you are consciously aware of them or not.

TIME OUT

Take a moment now and look at your life, whatever is going on in the outer circumstance.  Are you always feeling tired, anxious, hurried, overwhelmed, angry, sad, impatient or unhappy?  There is always an inner connection to the outer results.  With Julie, she had an inner belief, “I am not lovable”.  Doug felt he was not acknowledged or appreciated.  Katie felt her feelings didn't count and she was wrong.  Ask yourself;

“What am I feeling?”

“What brings up my frustration?”

“What do I think is wrong?”

“What do I hate doing?”

Taking a little quiet time to stand back and look at what's going on will help you become more conscious in the moment.  Play with it and you will learn something about yourself and your interaction with others, especially your children.

Young boys who grow up hearing; "Boys don't cry." may grow up to be men who hide their feelings and feel uncomfortable when others express theirs, (like Doug's Dad).

Girls who grow up not being able to play rough and tumble may continue to be afraid to be physical, hold back from rolling about with their own kids and of course protect their little girls from being too rough.

What happens next is little boys in the house always seem to be blamed when they are too rough with sisters.  This now gives an opportunity for the girls to grow up believing boys are mean and untrustworthy.  Boys can grow up believing girls are weak and whinny.

If you grew up believing “It's always my fault,” chances are you walk around with guilt and shame and then look to find ways to hide it from yourself and the world.  In just about all cases when we are dealing with financial disaster or problems there is a place within you that is not feeling worthy of having money or nice things or you have a powerful belief in lack or a depression mentality as Dr. Wayne Dyer calls it.

NOREEN

Noreen was 50 years old, confused, tired of being in constant debt and frustrated.  Noreen considered herself to be a spiritual person and embraced the practice of conscious awareness.  She understood the Law of Attraction and worked to be aware of her own self talk especially concerning prosperity and abundance.  She had taken many self improvement classes, practised positive affirmations, visualization and goal setting.  She even took money management courses.  Nothing seemed to work. If more money came in something was bound to happen to take it all away.