Our eternal marriage is no real marriage when one party is fixed or settled. There is no marriage worthy of the definition when only one party grows in Love and devotion and in intimacy and the other is fixed, impotent, and sterile of any emotional vigor. There is no marriage when purged of any ability to experience something new and fresh day by day. That should be obvious.
Remember, these passages are “true and trustworthy.” Symbolic, yes, but they truly represent a reality that no eye has seen, at least not yet. God chose to reveal heaven as a marriage, and that is instructive (or it ought to be). What is most important is that a denial of God’s heavenly growth in a marriage is diametrically opposed to Revelation 21-22, because the passage contains its own interpretative qualifier “true and trustworthy.”
Some people kick goads here, and they neuter marriage when they deny God a dynamic relational ability that at a minimum requires some amount of day-to-day freshness. That is what living is all about, literally and biblically. If God does not enjoy some kind of give and take and enjoy some kind of fresh day-to-day vigor in our eternal marriage, the passage has no meaning whatsoever, and the term marriage itself loses all luster.
The Holy City is also the New Jerusalem, the bride, and the wife of the lamb. The Holy City is also the church, the redeemed, and a picture of what our everlasting state of affairs will be. At the very least, the Holy City is a picture of the feelings and experiences of heaven.
Remember, we are not trying to discern the visual or auditory as much as we are trying to discern the feeling and experience. This is much more than the mere picture of a newly-wed couple before a wedding cake. Oh yes! The experience and feeling of the wedding night is so much more profound and intimate. Certainly give and take. Ideally, the wedding night is to be a unique experience for both parties, a prize of intimacy and a cherished moment of devotion.
Who does not know this? This picture of heaven in Revelation 21-22 is for adults only. Only adults can appreciate the magnitude of the pictures. Wee little children cannot fathom the richness or even understand the bare-bones meaning of “devotion”: children know devotion and exhibit it to a selfish degree and on an elementary level. But children do not understand devotion or know how to pay the price that quality devotion demands, much less the meaning of everlasting Love. The wonder and pleasure of the wedding night and the grander experience of a long-term and devoted marriage are exclusively adult pleasures and experiences. Profoundly adult. God could not have been more clearly personal.