The Wedding According to Paul:

·         ...Provides a man’s perspective on wedding planning, as opposed to that of the “traditional” wedding planners, which are often slaves to timeworn rules and traditions.

·         ...Offers the voice of experience—much experience—direct experience—more than a thousand weddings worth of experience.

·         ...Gives suggestions and solutions in a chronological step by step march toward the ultimate march down the aisle.

·         ...Offers many money saving and personalized practical

   suggestions, for creating your perfect wedding.

·         ...Gives practical, common sense solutions to many of the logistical challenges encountered in planning your wedding.

·         ...Gives insight to issues that most brides and grooms would never have considered, from dealing with long-winded clergy to pushy guests.

·         ...Keeps the Bride and Groom one giant step ahead of many potential wedding day pitfalls, by educating them about what could happen.

·         ...is far from being an etiquette book. It is a common sense approach to planning and executing a fun and memorable event for everyone involved.

·         ...Ensures that you have only terr

So, what do you do?  The first thing you do is to plan to 'share' your wedding with everyone you're inviting.  Does that seem strange as a 'first thing to do'?  The concept of holism is very in now; and hopefully it will be one of the new age goodies that makes its way through the quagmire of new age baddies, and stays with us.  If your family and guests are not looked upon as integral parts of your wedding, that's fine; but then don't have family and guests at your wedding.  Take off for Tahiti, Maui, Albany, or some other romantic hideaway and elope.  The expression, "Well it's my wedding and I'm going to do what I want," or statements like that, indicate a wedding that's not worth attending (It might also indicate someone too immature to be married.  But I'll leave that up to you and your shrink).

Here’s a twist:

Plan your wedding for a weekday. That will give you carte blanche on all your services at almost any time of the year. But if you’re going to do this, give your guests plenty of notice. Many, if not most of them are going to have to take the next day off from work.

Most of the time the Bride and Groom won't remember what the minister said five minutes after they walk back up the aisle anyway. It's not so much that his doing a lousy wedding will annoy you (at that point you're so nauseatingly in love you wouldn't care if The Elephant Man was doing your wedding), but, if you do have someone who does a sensitive, personalized job, it's a nice touch, and lends to the feel and the meaning of the wedding.

       I began my professional photography career in 1975.  I fell in love with wedding photography and, in spite of an offer from a world-renowned architectural photographer, I remained passionate about weddings and stuck with them.   I've owned and operated a portrait and wedding photography studio from my home in Los Angeles' San Fernando Valley since April of 1979

     In that time I've photographed over a thousand weddings—probably closer to fifteen hundred.  I can't give you the exact number because I lost count after the first three.

       After so many years and weddings worth of having an “up close and personal” view of virtually every moment and phase of the wedding from the time the Bride & Groom get dressed, until nearly the moment they get undressed, I've decided that I am a wedding expert and know everything there ever was, is, and ever will be to know about weddings.  And anyone reading this book should therefore take everything I say ver- batim and not have any opinions or use any common sense of their own."..You agree?..Let's just say you don't disagree". (Eli Wallach..The Magnificent Seven..Warner B r o thers..1961)